As I have mentioned before I am one of those parents who do not believe children need or deserve privacy or space. Hell No! They can get all that when they get a place of their very own. In saying that since I am raising two teens and a preteen I conduct random searches. What am I searching for? Well anything. Drugs, alcohol, love notes, letters from teachers that never made it to me etc. My kids have never done drugs or alcohol as far as I know but if they ever start I wanna be all over it as early as possible. So Sunday while the boys were outdoors I did my semi-quarterly search. In that search I found my son Marlon's Journal. He is turning 13 next month. He is also the pumpkin who shot his teeth out with a stapler, you can read about that here.
I began reading his journal. In there he wrote about Valentines day. Here's what I read:
"This year on Valentines day it is my mom who is my Valentine. I don't care what people say about that. I know it's weird but my mom deserves to be my valentine and here's why,
My mom sets a good example for me and my siblings. She always puts her kids first and herself last. She is nice and kind. People say she is pretty and lots of people like her. My mom does all the things a mom should do. She is very helpful and works hard. I am really glad that she is my mom. Some moms do not care, but my mom does. She is mostly nice but can get really tough when she has to. I know one day a girl will be my valentine but she will have to beat my mom for space in my heart. My mom is my Valentine."
I know right? Sweetest thing ever. I also read in that same journal that his best memory of the past year was the Superbowl party I threw for him and his brothers. I thought it was a bit of a flop because I envisioned a few of their friends coming but they both said they just wanted to spend time with family? Weird huh? And apparently it made a huge positive impact on him so I guess the $100+ dollars I spent on snacks and decor weren't a waste. He also wrote about the stapler incident. Here's an excerpt from that:
"I did something dumb. I wanted to see if a staple would go into my teeth so I stapled them but they broke. When my mom came home she was pissed off big time but I didn't care because it hurt so bad. I hate staplers and do not even wanna staple paper ever again!"
So this time when I snooped it was great! I think I may even skip the next inspection just because they make me so proud! There are few moments when you're kids are teens that are priceless in a positive way. So I will cherish this forever.
I'll tell ya having boys pays off every now and again, Like Valentines day. Each boy gave me beautiful earrings (real gold too) Jackpot! One of my boys even gave me a heart full of chocolates, a Nestle Crunch bar, and Hershey Bar. I got a long stemmed rose from my preschool, my neighbor made me a V-day cake, I treated myself to a haircut, and then to top it all off David really planned a lovely romantic evening. His plans were as follows:
Dinner~He planned a lovely candle lite dinner for just the two of us. Peaceful, serene and yummy. The lovely and amazing dinner consisted of a ribeye steak, large shrimp, garlic red potatoes, fresh veggies, two kinds of bread, salad, and creamy chicken spinach pasta.
Mixed drinks would be served.
Dessert~In which he would feed me. (note to David: I do not like to be fed)
He Bought all the fixings for ice cream sundaes: ice cream, whip cream, wet walnuts, cherries, hot fudge and hot caramel.
Movie ~that I had wanted to see was on deck.
Massage~ David planned to give me a full body massage. Which of course would lead into a romantic interlude.
Sounds good huh? Now for the reality of how it really went down in Raquel's World
Dinner was planned for 7p
Due to the incessant arguing of my kids and non-stop ringing of my phone that I had to answer and a drop in visit from the neighbor who was miserable because that's how she gets on holidays, we started at 845p. Almost 2 hours behind schedule.
Princess had a party at school and was hopped up on cupcakes, cookies, candy etc. so bedtime was not happening. David brought in the dinner and we sat down to eat. Princess decided she would join us and David thought it was fine. So candle light was out and so was peace and serenity because princess talked nonstop from the first bite til the last. Just the type of dinner conversation one wants eh? The food was scrumptious so I let that slide. Mixed drinks were out because I was taking antibiotics and you cannot mix alcohol with them.
Now to the sundaes, David was supposed to prepare them and present them to me but he was busy trying to make princess go to bed so I had to make my own, I know, cry you a river right? Hey it's my blog and I'll whine if I want to. So moving onto the movie. I popped in the movie and the DVD player decided that I indeed did not need to watch a movie so it refused to work. I tried several times then gave up and watched 90210, romantic huh? Onto the massage. I laid down for my full body massage 20/20 was on. It was an interesting interview with Janet Jackson. About 2 minutes into the massage they were showing pics of Janet at her finest, in a bikini. Just what I wanted to see after downing all that food. It did not help that David commented several times on her sexy body. Not only was he transfixed on the TV the massage was crappy. I warned him to knock it off because that was inappropriate for the moment. He did not heed my warnings and was dumb enough to then comment on how lucky her man must feel to have all that woman. Ewwww dude come on! Really? That did it. I told him to just get the hell off me. Let me clarify I do not mind him lusting after women or even watching porn but not during my damned Valentine's Day massage idiot!
So then I paid him back by telling him due to the UTI my vagina was out of order and there would be no romance tonight. He then suggested some alternatives. One in particular that was mainly for him. Umm nope! Its Valentines Day for gods sake! Not your damn birthday, Jeez! He then tried to cuddle with me which I do not care for. I had him give me a foot massage instead and off to bed we went.
All In all it was not a bad day. Pretty good actually. I got jewelry, chocolate, dinner, ice cream, a foot massage so I'm cool with it but I knew you all would like to hear all the Raquelish Details. How was your V-day!
